SUPPORT, WATCHFUL WAITING, GRIEF-SPECIFIC THERAPY (SUPPORT & REFERRAL)
Acknowledge the loss, let the person talk, and see them again. Most people do not need a doctor to do anything else - the article puts adaptation at 6 months to 1 year for most bereaved people, and makes the goal of normal grief exactly that: adapting to the loss and coming back into ordinary social life and daily activity. No medicine is indicated for uncomplicated grief - not an antidepressant, and above all not a benzodiazepine. When grief is still disabling the person a year on it becomes prolonged grief disorder, and the treatment for that is a specific psychotherapy, not a prescription: prolonged or complicated grief therapy, which draws on cognitive behavioural therapy and other techniques to help the person accept the loss and rebuild a sense of meaning and satisfaction in a life the dead person is no longer in. Refer for that rather than prescribing. - Review at intervals over the first year
A grieving child is not a small grieving adult. Regression, somatic complaints and behaviour change are the usual presentation rather than stated sadness. No drug; involve the school and the family. The article reports evidence that cognitive behavioural therapy works better in children than some of the other approaches do.
Grief and Prolonged Grief Disorder - StatPearls, NCBI Bookshelf NBK507832
Acknowledge the loss, let the person talk, and see them again. Most people do not need a doctor to do anything else - the article puts adaptation at 6 months to 1 year for most bereaved people, and makes the goal of normal grief exactly that: adapting to the loss and coming back into ordinary social life and daily activity. No medicine is indicated for uncomplicated grief - not an antidepressant, and above all not a benzodiazepine. When grief is still disabling the person a year on it becomes prolonged grief disorder, and the treatment for that is a specific psychotherapy, not a prescription: prolonged or complicated grief therapy, which draws on cognitive behavioural therapy and other techniques to help the person accept the loss and rebuild a sense of meaning and satisfaction in a life the dead person is no longer in. Refer for that rather than prescribing.
- Benzodiazepines are the specific mistake to avoid. They blunt the processing of the loss rather than easing it, and prolong the very thing they were given for.
- Grief and depression are separable at the bedside. Pervasive hopelessness, worthlessness, guilt, total loss of pleasure and suicidal thinking belong to depression, not to grief - if they are there, treat depression. The article asks for the same separation to be made and adds a third to it: prolonged grief, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and major depressive disorder (MDD) are three different diagnoses.
- Prolonged grief disorder is grief still disabling the person more than a year after the death. It does not respond to ordinary antidepressant treatment and needs a grief-specific psychological therapy - refer rather than prescribe.
- Ask about suicidal thinking directly. Bereavement is a risk period, particularly for an older man who has lost a spouse.
- RED FLAG - Takotsubo (stress) cardiomyopathy can be triggered by intense grief, presents like a heart attack, and needs admission under cardiology rather than reassurance or watchful waiting. The article states the same in a single line.
- RED FLAG - Early mental health or social work referral is indicated for signs of complex grief, such as intense anger or prolonged denial. The article's argument for bringing in the wider team early is that it reaches the people heading for prolonged grief disorder before the 6 and 12 month marks that define it.
- No drug row is offered here, and the article does leave a door open - but it opens onto another diagnosis, not onto grief. It allows that someone with prolonged grief may be helped by medicine aimed at the anxiety or the depression the bereavement brought with it, and that while time is what heals most people, a few are helped by counselling or a temporary course of drug treatment. It names no drug and no dose. If the anxiety or the depression meets its own criteria, prescribe for that diagnosis - not for the bereavement.